Permission to Say No: You Don't Always Have to Volunteer

So how high is the stack of papers needing your attention? How long is your “To Do” list? How cluttered is your calendar with meetings for volunteer work? If you’re like me…too high, too long, and too cluttered.Today I’m arming you with a simple word, no.

No. A powerful word in the English language. It’s usually one of the first words a child learns and wields like a sword to get his own way.

Moms on the other hand are more attuned to yes, not necessarily to our kids but to other adults. It’s hard to say no! Who will lead vacation bible school? Who will organized the book fair? Who will arrange for the dinner at the school carnival? Who will serve as room parent? We choose to be involved because we want to be involved. Please know, I am NOT saying don’t serve. I’m encouraging you to be selective in how you choose to participate. Just because you have the time, doesn’t mean you have to volunteer every time.

Considerations in Determining Participation in Volunteer Activities

• Be selective.
• Take the family calendar into consideration.
• Respond with, “Thanks. I’ll think about it and get back to you.”
• Pray about each opportunity. Is it  a calling or obligation?
• Talk to your kids. Do they want you to help out?
•  Is it truly a good fit for you?

Karen, one of my dearest and wisest friends, once told me, “It’s okay to say no to certain activities. When you cannot participate, it gives someone else an opportunity to serve.” She’s so smart…and right. Maybe some of the things I agree to do are really meant for someone else.

Volunteer with joy when you decide. If it’s a burden, it’s probably not a good fit. And don’t be afraid to say no. You can always follow up with, “Give me a call next time.”

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord…
Colossians 3:23

© 2014 Becky Danielson. All rights reserved.

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