The King's Friend

During my quiet time today I was reading 1 Chronicles 27. The number of official positions held in King David’s royal court is staggering. Along with the lengthy lists of priests, advisors, military leaders, and overseers are four men who were apparently also quite important to the king.

“Jonathan, David’s uncle, was a wise counselor to the king, a man of great insight, and a scribe. Jehiel the Hacmonite was responsible for teaching the king’s sons. Ahithophel was the royal adviser. Hushai the Arkite was the king’s friend” (1 Chronicles 27:32-33 NLT).

David relied on the counsel of his uncle, described as a very wise man. The teacher of David’s sons is also listed by name. Next, the king’s royal advisor, Ahithophel. Then Hushai the Arkite, the king’s friend. Just one word…friend. Yes, he was courageous in word and deed throughout David’s reign (2 Samuel 15:32, 16:16, 17:5) but here he is simply described as the king’s friend. What an honor for Hushai the Arkite to be listed among the officials of the kingdom as David’s friend. (The NIV identifies him as a confidant. Really, to whom but your best friend do you tell your secrets?) Hushai must have been one terrific friend!

Friendship skills are valuable assets for kids and adults. As a mother, it’s my responsibility to model the “how-to’s” of friendship. To have a friend, you need to be a friend. I want to be a friend who is trustworthy, dependable, kind, loving, helpful, and fun too. In this crazy busy world, stopping to listen, lending a helping hand or just enjoying one another’s company is what friendship is all about. I’d be the first to admit I get so busy that I’m not a very good friend sometimes. On many occasions I’ve had to ask for forgiveness. My friends generally forgive my foibles and continue to love me, for which I’m grateful.

Take time to work on the relationships in your life. The laundry can wait while you prepare dinner for a friend with cancer or call a friend who recently moved. Your children are watching. Are you taking the necessary time to strengthen old friendships and cultivate new ones? Make an effort this week to do both. You’ll be glad you did…so will your friends.

© 2012 Becky Danielson. All rights reserved.

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