Sharing

Children refusing to share is a common frustration for a lot of parents. Moms and dads are surprised and disappointed by their child’s behavior because hoarding and selfishness are not on the list of attributes one wants to instill in a child. But kids can be taught to share and like it! Use these ideas to encourage your children to share.

Instill kindness through sharing with others. Sharing is kindness in action.

1. Model unselfishness for your children by sharing your time and talents with others.
2. Role play how to share, giving your kids words and actions.
3. Give to those in need.

  And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need.
These are the sacrifices that please God.
Hebrews 13:16 NLT

The Golden Rule is a sharing tool.

1. Model the words of Jesus. Treat family members as you’d like to be treated.
2. Build empathy in your kids by asking questions like, “How would you feel if Julio took your toy away from you?” Assist with identifying emotions and solutions.
3. Help children to go above and beyond by offering to let a sibling play with a toy first.

So in everything,
do to others what you would have them do to   you…  
Matthew 7:12a

Personal items are special, not for sharing.

1. Books, toys, and other items that are favorites are special.
2. Put personal items away in a basket, the child’s bedroom or another location.
3. Allow your children to share special items when they choose to share.

Additional Strategies to Encourage Sharing

1. Use a timer to give each child a specified amount of time with a toy. When the timer goes off, it’s time to share the toy with someone else.
2. Use painter’s tape to delineate an area for each child to play without interruption. Others cannot enter the play area unless they are invited.
3. When children won’t share, the toy causing the conflict goes to time out. Allow your children to make a plan for how the toy can be shared.
4. Play games with turn-taking rules.
5. Praise the kids when they share with one another!

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